It’s ok You can still get an awesome job here’s how
My friend Ellen has complained about her job for far too long and the other night I had a really tough conversation with her. She started to complain, in detail, yet again and after she vented I gave her a challenge. The challenge to decide once and for all was she going to settle for a job that she viewed as mediochre or was she willing to change.
Do you have friend like this? A friend that is so dreadfully unhappy at work. Each day they bring that despair home and into their personal relationships. It’s like a creeping toxin that spreads its adverse effects onto everything it touches.
I love this friend and I’m also really tired of seeing and hearing her choosing to the be victim. That’s just what I told her. She got pissed. She lashed out at first, “Oh how easy for you to say since you started your own company.”
Instead of joining in that game I gave her the room. I let that sentence just sit as I sipped my wine in silence. Finally she said she just wasn’t sure what to do. She was scared. She was confident in her skills but not at all in actually how to go out and actually apply for another job.
That’s not quite as silly as it sounds. She works in a pretty siloed industry. Anyone who is good is fairly well known. In the past, when she wanted to change jobs she simply made a phone call, meet the decision maker at a bar, had a conversation to negotiate the terms and then had a celebratory drink.
Yup, that was how it was done. It was how she had gotten every job over the past 30 years. A resume, she never needed a sticking resume. The thought of putting one together really rocked her – she didn’t finish college. It was never an issue and with her own kids in college now has no desire to go back to school.
She has a wealth of IP that a recent college graduate with a master’s degree couldn’t even fathom. Yet how could she convey this to someone new and with AI systems that review resumes.
By the end of the dinner we had a plan. She would work her vast network; put the word out that she just might be interested in a move. There is a conference coming up and the deadline for speakers is this Monday. She’s going to send in a proposal. She identified two different groups that she was excited about getting involved in.
She left dinner with an entirely different determination to her walk. She made a decision and that decision was that she owned her future not the twisted co-dependent relationships she had with her bosses.
She will rock this. She is awesome, focused and kicks ass once she makes a decision no matter how tough it gets. I will keep you posted.