Episode #43 Women Who Work With Men
Sometimes it’s not confidence that allows us to take action, according to Abbe Solomon Vacek it’s simply making brave decisions.
That simple concept is filled with so much power. Many people won’t make decisions. Many senior people especially won’t make decisions even though that is the main part of their role. Decisions mean taking a stand, taking action and it might not work.
Yet Abbe tells about the importance the real impact it can have on your life when you choose to act with a posture of bravery.
We can often get stuck in our current comfortable life – on a trajectory perhaps of someone else’s design that doesn’t fit, that never will and yet we may stay. It’s what’s expected. We stay because we don’t have the confidence, we don’t think we know enough. Doing that thing that is calling us just seems too irresponsible.
Yet Abbe shows us how we can do this and do it bravely – not waiting for permission or our paralyzing concepts of perfection.
“I’ve used bravery and made brave decisions that might have seemed to other people as if I’m doing it from a place of confidence when I’m not, I’m scared out of my mind, but I do it anyway.”
By taking action based upon bravery you build your confidence even if the original plan goes sideways.
Abbe and I have had several conversations over the past couple of years that has given me puzzle pieces into her life. In this conversation, it all comes together. She shares her stories. Amazing stories that illustrate how choosing to be brave has made all the difference in living a life with real meaning.
Each twist and turn. Each action she has taken was made from a posture of bravery even when she didn’t have the confidence and then once complete built up her confidence.
Abbe isn’t the kind of person who lets others make the choices that determine outcomes that force conformity.
She shares her response to coming oh so close to her perfect dream job and then the brave decision that she took after that.
She shares a brave action that was recorded. When fear or the inevitable doubt that can creep into our lives shows up looks at the video and says, “ Hey I did this and it was really brave. what’s scaring me right now doesn’t even come close to this.”
It’s these kinds of decisions and actions that make Abbe who she is and the kind of person that you totally want on your team.
How to find Abbe Solomon Vacek: on Twitter @abbesol
Latest leap: “I’m working on changing my industry’s just something that I find more personally fulfilling, but that also comes with through a big dose of brave or a big dose, but a big push of bravery because maybe the, you know, the salary isn’t the same and the benefits aren’t the same or the security isn’t the same and, and I’m taking more risks, but I’m working now with a political technology startup. we provide polling for, um, for candidates and causes and our focus is on down ballot candidates, candidates who want to, who are pushing us in the, in a better direction for November, but candidates who can’t afford more traditional style polling, which is very expensive.
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